As a writer you often receive a version of that dreaded letter: Thank you for your submission BUT….
When you send off your baby after checking you’ve followed all the guidelines the publisher/agent/ contest organizers want you to, you hope this would the one. The winner.
But more often than not, you come across that dreaded “BUT”…
This is important for all writers worth their salt, because it affects their writing like nothing else.
And if a writer is not careful, it could become the staple diet for our inner critic, which keeps telling us,:
“You Suck. Your writing is USELESS. Go become an astronaut, a farmer, an electrician, or an investment banker, because you sure as hell can’t become a writer, you will Always get REJECTED.”
Here’s how handling rejection used to go for me.
-For a few minutes afterward, I was blank. Couldn’t believe it.
-Then I told myself it was their loss.
-Then I let the piece lie, forgot about it.
This is what happens now:
-I’m still blank for a few minutes.
-Then I tell myself these things:
1. If I’m published, I would be happy, but it won’t change who I am…so I’ll go on writing.
2. If I’m published, I would still continue to write…so I’ll go on writing.
3. If I’m published, it won’t make writing any less torturous…so I’ll go on writing.
4. If I haven’t been published, I can do one of two things, polish the piece further or give up….and polishing the piece gives me better chances of publication. So I’ll go on writing.
This keeps me focused, positive, and best of all, it keeps me (in love with) writing.
How do You deal with rejection?