I’ve been comparing myself to others, recently.
How I’ve been sitting at home writing stories, which earn less money per hour than I pay my help.
How my stories take so long to take shape, and how others seem to produce so many, so fast.
How untalented I am, compared to the hordes who are doing something tangible with their lives instead of living in their heads.
So this post from Mary J Melange comes at the right time for me, when I’m hitting a new low in terms of self-doubt as a writer.
Oh, I’m continuing to write, edit, and the words still keep coming, BUT.
So this excerpt fromm the post got me:
I have been slow to realize that making these types of comparisons only damages self-worth, it does not lift one up. Unhealthy comparisons can exacerbate one of two negatives: 1) They can deeply hurt our self-worth and self-esteem, or 2) they can drive us to do anything to get what we want; we’re willing to step over people and take prisoners at any cost.
I’m going to stop comparing myself to others– stop being so vulnerable to self-doubt.
I would recommend this post to everyone– it is long, but it is worth every minute you would spend on it. Promise.
Do you compare yourself to others? Do posts on social media from your friends lead you to think that they have it easier than you? Do you find yourself growing depressed and negative about your own abilities in comparison?