Dear Writers, How Do You Cope with the Submission Process? #writing #IWSG

Here on Daily (w)rite, as part of the guest post series, it is my absolute pleasure today to welcome Marc De Faoite, author, reviewer and editor, who speaks about writers submitting their work for publication.

Take it away, Marc!


Marc de Faoite guest post submissionsYou’ve been getting signals for a while now, at least you think you have, and you’re on the verge of leaning in for that first kiss. Your heartbeat quickens, even as time slows down. You commit yourself, hyper-aware of every detail, unsure if you should close your eyes or keep them open, unsure if this will lead to reciprocation or rejection.

Many of us recognize this scene, this hesitant willingness to be vulnerable while being honest about our desires. The path forks, but the choice of direction depends on someone else. Having stepped beyond the brink, we put our fate in their hands, submitting ourselves for approval or disapproval.

There can be fear in this, there can be desire. Fear and desire, it’s these two elements that create the delicious struggle that heightens our senses.

The verdict is usually clear and immediate – we get kissed back or we get pushed away, perhaps gently, perhaps roughly, but at least we know where we stand.

Attaching a document to an e-mail isn’t quite as romantic, but the dynamics are the same. We put ourselves out there, or our surrogates in the form of writing, knowing that we either face the thrill of acceptance or the disappointment of rejection.

But the response is nowhere as immediate as with a kiss. Days and weeks and even months might pass, craving a positive reply, fearing a negative one, obsessively checking inboxes, trawling through junk mail folders in the off-chance that there might be some news hidden there. If the publisher is inundated with submissions, or simply inconsiderate, we might even never hear back.

Craving the validation that comes with acceptance is a form of suffering, and not just in the writing life. The word submission has the double sense of offering our work up for scrutiny and consideration, but also of yielding to a higher authority. With eyes downcast and lowered heads we second-guess ourselves and our abilities. What’s the point in writing anyway? But no news is good news, right?

That moment of doubt as we lean in for a kiss can be as nerve-wracking as it is thrilling, but it’s just a moment. When we send off that manuscript or story we’re stuck in purgatory for an uncertain amount of time, and the longer we stay in that state the more disappointed we are when sorry-but-it’s-not-the-right-fit-for-us comes along. We’re setting ourselves up for a fall.

Conversely, you open your e-mail, and there it is at last — congratulations-you-are-the-golden-one! Do you experience a wonderful warm tingling vibration pervading throughout your body? Do you punch the air and whoop as a joyous cocktail of dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphins floods your brain? Damn straight, of course you do.

And then?

Well, it tapers off. Happy? Yes. Slight sense of anti-climax creeping in yet? Wait a week or two. You must be thrilled, say your friends. You admit you are, feigning the enthusiasm you want to feel, but somehow the fizz of elation isn’t there. It’s gone flat. Feather in your cap? Sure. Eternal bliss and un-doubting sense of self-worth? Not so much.

We all develop our own coping mechanisms, perhaps you have yours. Me, I attach a document to an e-mail, re-read the submission guidelines and place the cursor over the send button. For a moment I close my eyes, picturing a match setting fire to the document. I press send and it’s gone. Sometimes these submissions are resurrected phoenix-like, sometimes publishers send me RIPs. That’s beyond my control.

There’s little point in wasting energy craving for acceptance, fearing rejection. It won’t change the outcome. Our time is much better spent wrangling with new combinations of words. Now quit procrastinating and get back to your writing.


Marc de FaoiteMarc de Faoite‘s short stories and articles have been published both in print and online in Malaysia, Singapore, India, France, and Ireland. Tropical Madness, a collection of his short stories, was longlisted for the 2014 Frank O’Connor International Short Story Prize.
When he’s not writing, he’s generally busy doing other stuff, like reading, drinking tea, wandering around rain-forests like a lost ascetic, or splashing about in waterfalls.
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Are you a reader, a writer, or both?  What is your experience sending off your writing to journals, magazines, agents or publishers? As a reader or writer, do you have questions for Marc de Faoite

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  1. Holly Jahangiri

    “The verdict is usually clear and immediate – we get kissed back or we get pushed away, perhaps gently, perhaps roughly, but at least we know where we stand.”

    If only this were true. This is why I don’t cope at all with the submission process – why I publish on my blog or stuff my writing into a drawer – I don’t mind rejection, but I do mind very much having to wait four months to get it and move on. I understand “this does not meet our needs at this time” (though who wouldn’t want more specific critique of their work?) – it means the buyer’s not buying this thing right now, which is fine. I pass up many lovely things while shopping, because they are not what I need or in my budget RIGHT NOW. But the “no simultaneous submissions” rule (which I also understand, from a publisher’s standpoint) makes it commercially unfeasible to bother, some days.

    • Damyanti Biswas

      Most mags are now ok with simultaneous submissions. The magazine I help edit, the Forge Litmag, offers payment, short decision times, and charges no submission fees. We published a fair bit of good work, some of which has gone on to win awards. Not all magazines are made equal 🙂

      • Holly Jahangiri

        I’ll look into it. Thank you. I’d not heard that any were okay with simultaneous submissions. And it wouldn’t matter, provided turnaround time was faster.

        • Damyanti Biswas

          Most are, these days. You’ll find only a very rare, snobbish few that don’t allow simultaneous subs. I hope you’ll consider sending out your work to various venues, Holly 🙂

  2. vishalbheeroo

    I love the last line on no point wasting the time to think on the outcome. Right now, I am quite stuck on my first draft and didn’t write anything out of fear. Time to get things rolled today. Thanks for this post, Marc and Damyanti.

  3. Liesbet

    That is a well-written piece right there! Thanks Marc, for the post, the comparisons and the insights. You know, I never realized that the word submission has this double-meaning. I have always know that in the different contexts, of course (well, since I have been speaking English anyway), but it totally makes this the perfect word for submitting work! Especially with all those feelings involved. I am like you. Whenever the send button is pressed, the submission has a life of its own. We can’t do anything about it anymore. And, to be honest, we have worried about it enough by that point.

      • Liesbet

        Aha! Wat een verrassing. 🙂 Dit woord is beter in het Engels dan in het Nederlands, waar het “inzending” of “submissie” kan zijn. (I’m sure your Dutch is better than my French!)

  4. Ashwini CN

    Wow. This is amazing. I’d recently pitched an idea to an editor and this is exactly what I went through. Once the piece was published, I wasn’t as excited as I thought I would be. I was happy, yes but I was never on cloud nine. I could relate to what you’ve written. I needed to hear these words. I might as well go and work on my next piece instead of waiting for the world to go by.

    Thank you!

  5. Adan Ramie

    Sending something off to a publisher is hard. I’ve done it many times, but each time I decide it’s time to do it again, I get sweaty and cranky. I obsess over the submission guidelines. Sometimes I pick, prod, and poke the work so long, the deadline whooshes by and I never have to click Send at all. Those are the worst times, but they happen a lot. I guess I need to set myself a goal: x amount of submissions in x amount of weeks/months. Sounds good on paper, right?

  6. Esha Mookerjee-Dutta

    Very interesting reading this! I can see how this might be very useful for a lot of people out there who are keen to get their work published. Thank you, Marc, for stressing on why the fear of rejection should be banished. A lot of us get stuck right there and cannot overcome that.

  7. Shilpa Garg

    This made for a very interesting read. I liked the analogy you shared, Marc. It’s true that the radio silence from the publishers and agents can be pretty hard. But as you mentioned, it’s best to move ahead and let go of fear of rejection.

  8. ChrysFey

    When I get good news, there’s always the initial “YAY!!!” and then the next day it’s all business. A “yes” is just the beginning.

  9. Diane Burton

    Love the analogy. So true! The worst is the wait. Still, most times if you don’t hear anything, that means it hasn’t been rejected. And that means hope. Good luck, everyone, but as Marc says get back to writing.

  10. cindy212

    Processing submissions can be frustrating, not simply in the wait, but the recognition that each publishing house or agent has different requirements. I’ve been looking/seeking and sending my MS for er, years. Each rejection meant a good thing: You’re not there, yet. And I’d go back to the MS and rewrite/edit again. Get wise counsel. Respect the edit. My MS landed into an agent’s slush pile in October. Their statement is after three months, consider that a rejection. So in Jan of this year, I started a rewrite. Then … received an email that it had been shuffled during the holidays, and press on, it was back in the pile. That’s another three months (trust me, I’ve been working on a few writing projects since). Waited until near April, and figured it was rejected, and started the ‘what have I missed that they don’t like?’ edit. THEN received the news that after the gauntlet of readers, the agent wanted the full MS. WOW. Okay, so sent that. Whew. Another three months, and I hovered a finger over my new edit … then thought … I’ll wait one more month. The next day, received an email that they like it, want it, and please fix this and that. Which is where I am at, right now.

    THAT made me ecstatic. But that was truly a birthing process: 9 months. Now, after this edit, onto returning, there probably will be more. Then they will pitch to publishing houses. Once accepted- if accepted, there will be yet more edits. So be patient. Work on other projects. If you are rejected time and again, take solace that even the best authors suffer rejection after rejection.

    C

    • marc de faoite

      Ah, the world – you can run from it but you can’t hide. Actually I just came back from doing exactly that – a month walking across Northern Spain with everything I needed (or thought I needed) bundled up into a backpack. Where do you run to Crystal?

  11. marthaspencil

    Four of us have entered a mock-competition to see who gets the most rejections in a year’s time. The winner (loser?) will treat us all to a bottle of wine. The result has been that we get revisions done, get the work out, share market information, exchange journals to learn what editors like and are looking for, share the news of rejection (“Three rejections this week! I’m surging ahead!”) and in general send more work out while taking much of the sting out of rejection. It’s been bitter fun.

  12. Megan Morgan

    Funny enough, back in the days of sending off paper manuscripts (with an SASE, of course!) I always kissed it before I put it in the envelope. Now, I kiss my fingers and press them to the screen before I send off an email query.

    The problem with the ‘thrill’ is that thrills are just that–momentary, and they wear off quick. But the satisfaction of knowing you’ve accomplished something stays with you, a little more lowkey.

    • marc de faoite

      Wow. That’s quite and image Alex. Got me thinking simultaneously of the boxes and their unseen contents in the movie Seven and more recently in Twin Peaks. I think I prefer the Twin Peaks box. Best of luck with IWSG day.