
Is there someone who supported or influenced you that perhaps isn’t around anymore? Anyone you miss?
When it comes to my blogging journey, the person I miss the most and who, tragically, is not around any more, is Tina Downey.
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Whenever I see sunflowers, I think of Tina. 🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
Damyanti, you are one of the bloggers who have helped me along on my journey. Thank you for being a source of inspiration.
What a beautiful dedication, dear D. So many of our near and dear ones crossed over in the last two years. Like you know I have seen it up-close and personal, like you. Biggest hugs.
It’s so good to see you back and posting. Been so long.
I’m reminded of one of my favourite poems:
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
~Mary Elizabeth Frye
Be well and let’s get on a call soon. <3 <3
Has it really been eight years since Tina’s passing? Oh my goodness. We’ve lost too many. And yet we’ve all been blessed having known them.
I still haven’t achieved much as far as blogging is concerned. I dropped it after the loss of initial enthusiasm, and because I thought whatever I was writing was mediocre at best. I picked it up again after my husband pushed me to, and said, ‘why are you even thinking that much? Just start doing what you want to do and you can figure out how to move forward as you move forward.’ And I also can’t forget my best friend’s words, ‘are you waiting for when you’ll be able to write some astounding masterpiece to think yourself qualified enough to start writing? Don’t keep chanting to yourself, ‘I want to write, I am going to write.’ Just do it.’
To anyone else, it may not seem much, but I know how many psychological hurdles I have overcome to even initiate a blog and put a few posts out there. So thanks to those who gave me the push.
Thank you for sharing!!… I usually let my heart do the talking while my fingers do the walking… cannot think of any one person but can think of many!!.. “Life gives us brief moments with another, but sometimes in those brief moments we get memories that last a lifetime, So live that your memories will be part of your happiness.” (Author Unknown)… 🙂
Until we meet again..
May flowers always line your path
and sunshine light your way,
May songbirds serenade your
every step along the way,
May a rainbow run beside you
in a sky that’s always blue,
And may happiness fill your heart
each day your whole life through.
(Irish Saying)
Hi Damyanti,
Glad to be here after so long!
I started blogging only because of a friend, who persuaded me to write, as she felt i could do it well. I didn’t even know how to use the computer then. She helped me create an email id, and then a blog, and then she told me how to blog, and what! We are no longer in touch, but I miss her. I only wish she could see how much I have grown in my writing and how it has helped me find employment. I always hope she comes across my write ups somewhere online.
Other than her, my bestie, Priya, and some of my dear blogging friends helped me in my blogging journey. They read my blog posts, offered constructive criticism, edited my writing that I wished to submit to publications, and, in general, indulged me, like one would a kid with big dreams. I love them all and am glad I am in constant touch with them.
I didn’t know either Jeremy or Tina well, but there losses have sent waves of sadness throughout the blogging/writing community.
Sending hugs your way
Hugs back, Jemi. I miss both of them.
I’m a didactic person. Sadly, there’s only me, 🙁
I’m pretty sure you have people rooting for you, Robert 🙂 .
My mentor in the College of Journalism who patiently nurtured me in this unfamiliar field of creative writing after my retirement. I was looking for a hobby that had nothing to do with administration or teaching business and am particularly in her debt. However everyone who has written a book I’ve read has contributed in some way including you Damyanti 🙂
That was a wonderful tribute, Damyanti, thank you. I only ‘knew’ them slightly – thanks as much to your leadership and my minioning those years ago. I’m so glad to have ‘met’ you, Vidya, Czenge, Anna and Guilie.
I’d love to help cheerlead the Blue Bar (if it’s not too scary for me!)
They were both lovely, Jemima, and I really enjoyed my time working with you, Vidya, Czenge, Anna and Guilie. I’m in touch with you, Vidya and Anna, but haven’t heard from Czenge and Guilie in quite a while.
I’ll reach out to you when the ARCs of The Blue Bar come in–this one might be a lot less dark than You Beneath Your Skin. 🙂
Hi Damyanti – that’s wonderful to read your tributes here … I was particularly fond of Tina – she was an amazing person – exactly as you’ve described her … she must have been amazing to chat to … now many have extraordinary memories of Jeremy – people can depart so suddenly … but it’s wonderful these two and others have spread their goodness around the blogosphere. Take care through 2022, and all the best with your authorship – you’re really offering us lots through the books you write. Cheers Hilary
Hi Hilary, you’re so right about the fleeting nature of life. Makes us hold our friends closer.
Thanks so much for your kind wishes and unflagging support—you were a pillar throughout the journey of You Beneath Your Skin. I really appreciated your blog post, and review.
Although I didn’t know Tina I felt I got to know her through your lovely tribute. I read about Jeremy too, on other blogs but again didn’t know him. The blogosphere is a wonderfully supportive space. I wish you luck with The Blue Bar. Happy IWSG day.
Both Tina and Jeremy were good friends and stalwarts in the blogging community.
Thanks so much for the kind wishes, and for filling up the Daishik form to offer a read of an ARC. Much appreciated!
Heartening to learn about Tina through you. Such a heartfelt tribute to her. I have no words to add here.
Tina was a phenomenon.
She is a treasure from my blogging journey, as are you–thank you for always offering your support. I hope you know I’m just a DM away, as well.
I mentioned Tina, too. As soon as the sunflowers pop up everywhere in Colorado, my thoughts turn to her.
Shannon at The Warrior Muse
Shannon, sunflowers and Tina are now synonymous for me. I’m sure she’s raising good trouble and laughing, wherever she is.
Hope you had a good IWSG day! I didn’t see this post when I looked at your page earlier. Clearly I’m going nuts.
No worries. It may not have showed up on the main page.
Your remembrances for Tina and Jeremy are well said. They both contributed so much, and had generous spirits. I’d love to help you promote your next book. I’ll sign up!
Mary, they were golden. We had a lovely co-host group with the A to Z Challenge, and I made so many friends with other bloggers.
Thank you for offering to help, I really appreciate it.
I am endlessly grateful to so many of the people I have met in the blogosphere – and mourn so many who have left. I may not have met them in life, but they made a permanent home in my heart.
And I am pleased (so pleased) to hear that your new book is nearly done…
So well said, Sue. Online friends are just as real to me as irl friends. Sometimes you make a connection, and that’s that.
Thanks so much for the kind words on my book. The copyedits are done, and the proofreads will hit me this month. Your support means the world.
Oh, yes, Damyanti, two bloggers sadly missed. I didn’t know them as well as you did, but Tina was very helpful, when I wrote a guest blog for the A to Z Challenge. I regarded her as a friend. The graphics Jeremy provided were super.
Congratulations on your new book!
Tina was super-helpful, always, and I agree, Jeremy designed wonderful graphics. They are both missed.
Thanks you for stopping by, and your kind wishes.
What a lovely tribute to Tina and Jeremy. Friends who pour out their inspiration and joy for life are precious jewels and we always wish we’d loved them just a little more. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
Thanks for stopping by, Lee. I miss Tina dearly, and Jeremy’s passing has been a shock.
Grateful for the IWSG community.
“With the pandemic, the importance of the online community has increased manifold.” So true! And your blog is a lovely tribute.
Yes, my online life has been a savior during the pandemic. Thanks for stopping by, Yvonne!
So good to hear from you, Damyanti. I wish I’d known both Tina and Jeremy. Are there blogs still up? Can I check out their posts? When you’re ready, count me in for your next book. If it’s anything like the last one, I’ll love it.
Good to hear from you as well, Jacqui! Yes, both Tina’s and Jeremy’s blogs are up–and I’ve linked them to their names in my post.
Thanks so much for your support of my writing. I’ll reach out as soon as we have further developments.E-arcs should be ready by end February, if not before.
I still miss Tina so much. And she and Jeremy were like sister and brother. I know he took her passing hard. Hopefully they are now enjoying each other’s company again in Heaven. And what a blessing you got to speak with her.
So well said, Alex. They definitely were like siblings, and he took her passing very hard. May they be enjoying each other’s company again. Miss them both.
Damyanti, I’m approaching nine years of blogging and it’s hard for me to believe it’s been that long. Time flies when you’re surrounded by a wonderful blogging community and friends. I’m so glad I connected with you and so many others here. I’ve learned much about other countries, communities and the human experience, not to mention having writers like you who inspire me to do better with my writing and with staying connected. If not for this, times spent in seclusion during the pandemic would have been more difficult.
I’m excited for the new book and can’t wait to read the finished product!
Mary, likewise. I miss the days of Blog Friends First, and all of the interaction we had on our blogs. With health issues, the pandemic, and my writing life, blogging has taken a back seat, and I hope to change that. Thanks so much for your support. I’ll definitely reach out to you as things progress in the next few weeks.
Thanks for sharing this, Damyanti! I just wanted to thank you for your encouragement of and friendship with the late great Rick Mobbs. He so enjoyed the blog connection with you and it helped him as he was creating new virtual and in person communities when we moved from North Carolina to New Mexico. Your kindness and creativity were a great inspiration to him!
Naomi, so lovely of you to reach out. Rick and I became online friends through mutual creative inspiration. He was wonderfully talented, and immensely kind. I remember his work, especially Creation Myth, and Summer. Wish we could have collaborated for much longer.I just checked out the Rick Mobbs Art site–his legacy is beautifully preserved. I hope we can remain in touch, and wishing you all the very best.
Each of us is a walking shadow. The people in our lives are lights, varying in color and brightness. As they pass by us, our shadows move and change with each light, becoming something different with each one.
We become a living dance of light and shadow with the people entering our lives … and leaving them.
Such a person to me was Sandra Thrasher. I wrote my tribute to her on another IWSG post: https://rolandyeomans.blogspot.com/2017/06/sandra-trashera-star-to-guide-byiwsg.html
All of us are such lights. We can only hope to be healing ones, right? Thank you, Damyanti, for being such a light for me. 🙂
So very well said, Ronald. Thank you for being a light in mine. I’ve been on hiatus and missed your posts–hope you’ve been well.