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Why I’ll Never Make a Great blogger and Why That’s Okay

My Blog and Its Imperfections

Yes, I actually forgot about my 5th Blog Anniversary for this blog.

It passed by 3 days ago.

But that’s just the first reason I’ll never make a great blogger. Here are the others:

1. I can never blog every day of the week, unless it is April, for the A to Z Challenge. Oh, wait. Even that is 6 days a week.

2. I’ve never done a giveaway, ever. I’ve only ever (co) organized one blogfest, the Rule of Three. And the A to Z Challenge last April and again this year, but in this I’ll be part of the best team in the world, and work with a dozen other co-hosts. I won’t be doing any blog gymnastics, I’ll tell you that right away.

3. I comment sporadically. Some days I go blog-browsing, others I just don’t. I lurk often, reading posts and not commenting. I somehow imagine folks would know I’ve been visiting.

So, I’m not the best blogger material, for sure.

But I find I still have blog friends, who will cheer me up, bail me out, talk to me. I’m blessed, and I don’t do anything to deserve it. Both my blogs are still running after 5 years. I enjoy the posts I write. I write when I want, stay away when I like — I have complete freedom.

So who cares if I won’t make the best blogger? I’m happy doing what I’m doing, and I love my blogging, no matter how sloppy or irregular it is.

I embrace myself with all my imperfections, so no reason I shouldn’t embrace my blog.

This anniversary (the one I forgot to mark), I’ll not feel sorry for my shortcomings as a blogger. I’ll just accept my blog and my blogging for what it is.

After all, we have to love ourselves before we can truly love anyone else.

So dear Amlokiblogs, you just turned 5, and I love you. Let’s celebrate!

Damyanti Biswas

Damyanti Biswas is the author of You Beneath Your Skin and numerous short stories that have been published in magazines and anthologies in the US, the UK, and Asia. She has been shortlisted for Best Small Fictions and Bath Novel Awards and is co-editor of the Forge Literary Magazine. Her literary crime thriller series, the Blue Mumbai, is represented by Lucienne Diver from The Knight Agency. Both The Blue Bar and The Blue Monsoon were published in 2023.

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  • I think it's great to know who you are. Which in my mind makes you a great blogger.

    • Damyanti says:

      Oh, I mostly have no illusions about myself, both as a person and as a blogger. As to how often I admit to my shortcomings, that's the subject of another blog post! Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  • Arlee Bird says:

    Congratulations on making this far and doing all that you do. Commenting takes up so much time and requires such diligence–I've slipped in that department a great deal. Hey we're fairly consistent if nothing else.

    Tossing It Out

    • Damyanti says:

      Thanks, Lee. I was never a good commenter, and despite trying I can't be a better one — I'm now old enough to know not to try something too hard when my heart isn't in it 😉

  • Happy belated fifth anniversary! I must have been blogging in my haphazard way for over a year now, but I've let the anniversary slide by too. I just forget to check these things! Worse, though, is I managed to lose most of my blog followers when I moved over to WordPress last year, because I didn't really know what I was doing, and then I was too shy to hit everyone up and ask them to follow me again. You need a bit of hutzpah to be an A-list blogger, I guess. 🙂

    • Damyanti says:

      First Anniversary? Congratulations! I remember you from the last A to Z Challenge…are you taking part this year?

  • Purba says:

    That you have persevered for five years, makes you better than the best.

  • Team Oyeniyi says:

    I totally missed my 2nd blogiversary. I post when I have something to say. I struggle to find the time to lurk, let alone comment.

    In other words: you are not alone! 🙂

    • Damyanti says:

      Thanks, that does me a power of good.

      Most days, I have something to say, but only some days is it something worth sharing!

  • Saru Singhal says:

    First of all, I think you are a great blogger as you are doing it for 5 years. Not many can stand that long. I have doubts about myself. Also, even I can't do the 2 things you mentioned and my behavior is same as yours for 3rd point. Considering you survived, I am implying even I too will survive. 🙂

    Happy Anniversary. 🙂

  • Anna Tan says:

    Sounds something like my blog. 🙂

    Happy 5th! I don't even remember when mine was.

  • MorningAJ says:

    I guess I'm a bad blogger too. Because I can relate to all of this!

  • wow, happy 5th blogiversary!

  • Cynthia says:

    I don't think "great blogging" should be judged by the frequency of posting or commenting, or whether or not one has been able to host a contest. For me, I value quality more than quantity. That, and good etiquette. Maybe I'll see you around during A to Z in the spring.

    • Damyanti says:

      Yay, would be great to see you via A to Z!Yep, agree about quality vs quantity, tho am unsure I do the quality bit either.

  • Clearly I am also not a great blogger either then. I missed my first anniversary, just managed to notice my 100th post on one blog, don't blog daily (except A to Z Challenge which I can't do this year as I'll have a newborn) and in fact think daily blogging for any amount of timeis almost suicidal, and I don't do giveaways. But at least I'm in good company 🙂

  • Nick Wilford says:

    You shouldn't have to follow any rules when blogging. Just go with what feels right for you. The idea of a schedule makes me anxious, because my life can be erratic due to family issues. You've made great friends and that's what counts!

    • Damyanti says:

      Nick, yes, I have good friends, and that's my biggest takeaway from my blogging.

      Looking forward to your blogfest!

  • I enjoy your posts when you have them. Don't feel bad about missing the blog anniversaries, I have missed the past two of mine. ^^

  • D.G. Hudson says:

    Congrats on the 5 yr anniversary! I'm of a similar sort, I work at my own pace. I try to post things that are informative, I do research and I like feedback, which seems to be better if I leave the post up longer.

    We need all types of blogs, and I wanted you to know that you're not the only one who thinks like you do. The writing is what's important (and I mean my fiction writing).

    Thanks for being honest!

    • Damyanti says:

      Thanks, D.G. Your words mean much to me. I'm a regular visitor on your blog, but you wouldn't know that from the frequency of my comments!

  • Rena says:

    Congrats on getting to five years! Talk about dedication. And I totally do the lurking thing all the time.

  • I love your style.

  • Congrats on turning 5, I think that's good going.

  • Richard says:

    There are no rules about blogging or having a blogging schedule. You've done well. Don't give it another thought.

  • The best blogger is the best blogger YOU can be!
    I'll never write long, thoughtful comments. I'm all right with that as well.

    • Damyanti says:

      This isn't the best I can be, but I don't want to be the best. It's too stressful, and my blogs are my stressbusters 🙂